Kristopher C. Kern - Clinical Psychologist - Trauma, Grief/Loss, DEI
Couples Therapy
When considering couples therapy, it is so important to consider what factors and forces maintain the negative loop. Said another way, what is currently happening or what relational dynamic is perpetuated by either each person's thoughts or behaviors. In many ways, couples therapy is about trying to generate a new relational dynamic through awareness of factors that maintain disconnection between all individuals within the relationship (whether monogamous or polyamorous) and holds each person accountable to participate in and effectively navigate new actions (e.g., communication style, listening and honoring) that perpetuate change. More directly, our goal in couples therapy is to recognize the couples cycle and disrupt or change the parts that are not serving the relationship.
This fluid process takes time and effort and my role as your therapist is to observe and learn about the dynamics. Remember therapy is a change agent and my role is to guide your change towards finding new relational patterns that fuel connection and love. Much of my approach considers Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples (Founded by Susan Johnson). Here, we acknowledge how we are all social beings driven by our attachment styles and how these patterns of relating to others either interfere or support the relationship. By getting to the root of one's emotions and how this perpetuates this sense of detachment from the other(s), we are able to truly understand what one is seeking in the relationship (no longer masked by various factors). Doing so, the relationship becomes a "safe haven" where the primary goal of each member of the relationship is t feel close and secure to the person you love.
As a true integrated therapist, Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples is a foundation and I utilize other theoretical formulations to create the change sought by all members of the relationship.
This fluid process takes time and effort and my role as your therapist is to observe and learn about the dynamics. Remember therapy is a change agent and my role is to guide your change towards finding new relational patterns that fuel connection and love. Much of my approach considers Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples (Founded by Susan Johnson). Here, we acknowledge how we are all social beings driven by our attachment styles and how these patterns of relating to others either interfere or support the relationship. By getting to the root of one's emotions and how this perpetuates this sense of detachment from the other(s), we are able to truly understand what one is seeking in the relationship (no longer masked by various factors). Doing so, the relationship becomes a "safe haven" where the primary goal of each member of the relationship is t feel close and secure to the person you love.
As a true integrated therapist, Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples is a foundation and I utilize other theoretical formulations to create the change sought by all members of the relationship.
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